Your relationship problems are likely rooted in the individual problems of two people who are “triggering” each others’ hurts and defenses. Growth for the individuals can effectively allow communication building, increase trust, enhance emotional intimacy & sexual fulfillment. Couple distress is the single most common reason for seeking therapy. It undermines family functioning and is strongly associated with depression, anxiety disorders, and alcoholism.
Often, men are afraid that they will be blamed if they come to therapy. This is not the case! I take a relational perspective – which in everyday language is akin to “there are two sides to every story”. This work is not about blame but creating a new possibility.
I work deeply – having clients speak directly to each other, supporting couples to take risks that they have simply been unable to fully realize and deal with. I assume that underneath it all, partners really want the relationship to work, it’s often that ways of reaching each other have become almost impossible to achieve. What most people want, really desire is to experience being heard, desired and understood. I love to support couples in building presence with each other, intimacy is so motivating and it does not begin ‘in the bedroom’.